THE MOTHER PROGRAM

7/25/2025

There is being who you are, truly. And then there is running a program of who you think you are supposed to be. Once you become conscious that you are running a program, you can’t go back and unsee/unknow it.

I wrote and published a children’s format book seven years ago called, A Good Mother. I can see so clearly now how I was in the throes of grappling with a specific program: The Good Mother Program.

The Good Mother Program that I’ve been running (and have been consciously dissolving) is that you do everything for your children. You literally plug your life-force into those other beings called children.

I’ve come to realize at an even deeper level how detrimental this is not only to me, but to them.

I was shown this week, through a conversation with our almost 21-year-old daughter and an experience with our 19-year-old son, how, even though The Good Mother Program is no longer active in my energetic field, the idea of it is still hanging around.

I found myself telling my daughter that it was not a good idea to drive five hours, twice, in a week’s time, staying only 24 hours at a time, to see her new boyfriend. And also, by the way daughter, do you really think it’s a good idea to buy a house that a hoarder has been living in and needs a ton of work?

And my son will live in an apartment for his sophomore year at Purdue. When I told a dear friend that I had been worrying about whether he would have chip clips for his chip bags, my Good Mother Mania was on full display.

If you are thinking, these are normal “mother” things… I get it. But neither are they normal or helpful. I was ALL IN IT…trying to live the experiences that are MEANT FOR THEM.

Once I saw it, I could not unsee it. However…

In my seeing, I am free. It is not my job to live my daughter’s life nor my son’s life. It is their job. More than that, it’s their privilege. Literally, it is their birthright here on the planet to be the life-force energy that THEY have come to be.

And, it is my privilege to BE the life-force energy that I HAVE come here to be.

And we all get to experience all of the experiences that being who we are entails.

As my dear friend said after I told her about the chip clips - you are worrying about things that he is not even worrying about - so they will eat stale chips.

Here, here. Everyone gets to eat their stale chips. Everyone gets to live in the house that they want to live in and drive any distance they want to see their boyfriend.

YES. Everyone.

xoxoxo