FEELINGS, SIGHTS & SOUNDS
6/26/2025
I live in Indiana. We have a WNBA team. Recently, a veteran player that had just arrived to play with the team, left the team. It was an abrupt change. There has been support for her and also a lot of vitriol toward her.
I trust this player, this human, is doing what she needs to do for her by being who she is in this moment.
Being who we are the most difficult thing to do. It requires us to allow the flow of our life-force instead of tamp it down. Being who we are is the truth of our expression and our original intelligence.
This is the energy of leadership, true leadership. It might not be “pretty” and it’s sometimes “messy” but it’s leadership nonetheless.
For a long, long time I did not allow myself to be who I am. I didn’t know it, but I was scared of me, scared of my true expression. And by extension, I was uncomfortable with other people being who they were. My repression extended outward toward others.
When my daughter came into the world, now almost 21 years ago, this began to shift for me. I experienced this shift most dramatically in my marriage.
I began to see how fear drove my need for my husband to be an idea instead of who he actually was. Fear, my own repression of who I was, had created a fracture in our marriage. I had two choices. Continue as we had been or face my fear and become myself.
I did continue with the former choice for some time. Instead of facing my fear, I pushed it out. I blamed and judged my husband for not being who I needed him to be. I made all of my hurt and pain and fear his responsibility.
I’ve spent the last 21 years taking back responsibility for my life-force. Our union has transformed. It is continually transforming.
When I be who I am, everyone else gets to be who they are. My very life-force is the portal to True Expression. As is yours for you. This can be disconcerting at first. To everyone. Keep stepping through that disconcertion.
On the other side is you. The beautiful sight, sound and feeling of your life-force flowing. As only YOU can.
xoxoxo